Grieving The Grieving Process - 1380 Words

The Grieving Process According to Thomas Attig, who made an important distinction between grief and the grieving process, the grieving process is a complex coping process which gives and challenges and opportunities for the griever and also the choices to be made and tasks to be presented with a tremendous amount of energy to be invested. Most people have negative thoughts about grieving process and they believe that grieving process can render the individual passive and helpless. However, according to Attig, â€Å"It is misleading and dangerous to mistake grief for the whole of the experience of the bereaved. It is misleading because the experience is far more complex, entailing diverse emotional, physical, intellectual, spiritual and social†¦show more content†¦There are many similarities between the grieving process (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance). Shock and Denial: when someone hears the news of someone who is very close to that person is dying or expected to die, the first reaction can be denying the process by thinking that it cannot be true. It is kind of similar to going to a â€Å"temporary safe place† from the ugly realities that one can experience. The denial is a common experience among the newly bereaved and also serves positive functions in the process of adaptation. With time, they tend to understand the losing process and may feel like it is impossible for one to deal with all of the social meanings of death at once. However, denial can protect someone from hearing unbearable experiences at first. Disorganization (confusion): Disorganization or confusion is a bereavement process in which one may feel totally out of control or out of touch with the reality of everyday life.* They feel like life has no meaning and normal/everyday happenings nothing makes sense.*(Some of them go through this disorganization process like 2 to 3 day time period just before the funeral as if on â€Å"automatic pilot† or â€Å"in a daze†)*Disorganization and confusion are normal responses when one’s normal social life has been dramatically changed/destroyed due to some traumatic experiences. Volatile Reactions: When someone’s going through a grieving process, they have a natural tendency to feel angry, frustrated, helpless